one of the more valuable things I’ve learned in life as a survivor of a mentally unstable parent is that it is likely that no one has thought through it as much as you have.
no, your friend probably has not noticed they cut you off four times in this conversation.
no, your brother didn’t realize his music was that loud while you were studying.
no, your bff or S.O. doesn’t remember that you’re on a tight deadline right now.
no, no one else is paying attention to the four power dynamics at play in your friend group right now.
a habit of abused kids, especially kids with unstable parents, is the tendency to notice every little detail. We magnify small nuances into major things, largely because small nuances quickly became breaking points for parents. Managing moods, reading the room, perceiving danger in the order of words, the shift of body weight….it’s all a natural outgrowth of trying to manage unstable parents from a young age.
Here’s the thing: most people don’t do that. I’m not saying everyone else is oblivious, I’m saying the over analysis of minor nuances is a habit of abuse.
I have a rule: I do not respond to subtext. This includes guilt tripping, silent treatments, passive aggressive behavior, etc. I see it. I notice it. I even sometimes have to analyze it and take a deep breath and CHOOSE not to respond. Because whether it’s really there or just me over-reading things that actually don’t mean anything, the habit of lending credence to the part of me that sees danger in the wrong shift of body weight…that’s toxic for me. And dangerous to my relationships.
The best thing I ever did for myself and my relationships was insist upon frank communication and a categorical denial of subtext. For some people this is a moral stance. For survivors of mentally unstable parents this is a requirement of recovery.
Wow I really needed to see this right now.
Me with rude-ass kids who won’t shut the fuck up about Fortnite.
I don’t care if it looks ugly on your blogs THIS COULD POSSIBLY SAVE LIVES
Nigerians are about to save the world
Governments are gonna kill this guy.
his name is Maduike Ezeibe, a professor at the Michael Okpara University of Agriculture Umudike, Abia State. this is huge
The world won’t get serious about this unless a post goes viral and that’s sad af You rather talk about a vine video or popular culture ok that’s fine and all but there’s a cure for HIV/Aids and america is lying There is a cure for HIV/Aids and no one will spread the news for those who are diagnosed with it, so that THE WORLD COULD WAKE TF UP There is hope for those who have been diagnosed with a disease that may have given them 20 or so years to live For the first time in the history of the world there’s is a possible preventative cure for one of the most deadliest viral diseases
Most def had to reblog this. I’m supporting him 1000%
This doesn’t fit but I needed to reblog. Please signal boost. ♡
Honestly don’t care about keeping an aesthetic going, this shit is IMPORTANT
This is truly an amazing thing. I have a loved one with HIV/AIDS and we all thought he wouldn’t get to grow older than he wanted due to it, but if this somehow (by luck and a mircacle) gets avaliable in America, he can live a long, happy life.
So many people can live long, happy lives. This could put an end to the ever continuing HIV and AIDS crisis.
#ripvine Even though I only ever did like 9 vines 😂
THIS CAT’S NAME IS FUCKING STARSCREAM
I wasn’t joking when I said they’ve been playing Life is a Highway at school. It’s been three weeks now. I might commit homicide upon whoever controls the PA playlist
I’m laughing so fucking hard. My choir friends and I were watching vines during APP and we saw a Cailou one and I of course made some verbal shitpost and now this exists.
Guess who showed up at Maverick on my walk home from school. Stayed in the parking lot til I left then drove past me. I dunno if Bumblebee is real or if it was a coincidence or if I have a stalker cause I see this car literally fucking every time I go out.
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